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Saturday, 27 October 2012

News and Plans for the Future

Hello everyone,

I thought it was about time that I update you on happenings within the Faerie Whisperers' Faerie Witch life. 

As you all are aware, I've had a very horrible and testing time in my life and my plan was and is to take back my power and fully control my life. Well, on Tuesday I had another counselling session which helped so much. I don't feel it immediately but a couple of days after the session I start to feel that anything is possible and I can and will be happy again. It's during those days that I feel like the old me in a way, yet I feel more like the NEW me. (See my picture above - that was/is me on a good day since it happened). 

My lists of "Things I like about myself" have improved dramatically with one entry the other day actually declaring that "I am beautiful". The photo above helped me realise that I am very good looking (She says with a pang of ouchy as she feels that's a little egotistical of herself). I've also been reading a book that I will be reviewing, and it's really got into my head and thus removed a great deal of the ex's voice out of my head. I've realised where I was going right many years ago in my life and where I went slightly wrong in more recent years. This is helping me to gradually grab my life by the horns and begin to steer it back in the direction that makes me truly happy, that allows me to live as my true self. 

So what's my plan? 

Well, right now everything is really still in the Inquiry stage, so I don't want to declare too much in case it all falls through and I back out, but let's just say that being a Primary Teacher really isn't where my heart lies, and it doesn't make me as happy as a career could do. 

I've been taking part in Lyn Thurman's Soul-Path Tribe, and it is so amazing! Actually having steps and following them is really helping me turn my life around. I highly recommend it! 
I know that by taking part in this and being honest with myself and those around me about what it is that I want in my life and from life, I can achieve my dreams of being a successful Life Coach, Writer, Author and Spiritual Teacher. 

Which now brings me nicely onto positive and happy news!! 

I am featured in November's issue of Soul & Spirit magazine. 

It tells the story of how I manifested Romance into my life through "Cosmic Ordering". What I've been saying to everyone is, that it's the METHOD of how I cosmically ordered the romance into my life, NOT who the person was (Obviously he wasn't "The One"), but it's a method that I know works, and will be the method I use again when I'm ready to find love and be in a relationship again. Unless the Universe brings me "The One" beforehand - in according with Divine Timing of course :) 


Next year (2013) I am so pleased to say that I will be writing TWO very new and exciting columns for The Faeries and Angels Magazine! Both very different, and very exciting so watch this space. Also, they have a special UNICORN edition coming up soon which I am featured in so keep a look out for that and I'll update you on here ASAP. 


SO what I have learnt from the horrible mess in my life? 

1. Don't EVER let anyone have control over you, and your life. 


Thursday, 25 October 2012

Book Review ~ Crystal Healing by Adrienne Dumas

This charming E-book written by Adrienne Dumas is so beautiful I cannot express it well enough. It details beautifully how we can work most effectively with 10 of the most common crystals, with hints and tips on using Citrine, Amethyst, Rose Quartz, and Diamond  to name a few. 

In my opinion this helpful guidebook is perfect for beginners who are just getting acquainted with working with crystal energies, and also more advanced practitioners as sometimes we can forget some very simplistic and key methods in working with such wonderful energies.  

It took less that 3 minutes to print out after being instantly waiting for me in my email account immediately after purchasing, and I couldn't put it down. I have since put it in a beautiful ring binder and keep it handy on my shelf with all my other crystal guides. 

The layout, detailing, and wonderful pictures add to the magickal charm of this guide and is one that I will refer to again and again. Adrienne writes with a passion, and it clearly shines through the pages of this guidebook, and makes you want to find out more; more about crystals, more about Adrienne's work and more about the wonderful Faeries and Angels Network which features Videos, Pod Casts, Magazines, and Online articles to name only a small amount of the fantastically magickal work that Adrienne brings us along with Andrea Dombecki 

Available to Purchase from the link above (Under the cover picture) for a wonderful price of $3.33
 (Just over £2!) 

Adrienne Dumas with her other book; The Angels 
(Soon to be reviewed on here!) 

Adrienne Dumas is the author of the book "The Angels: A Guidebook to Angels, Angelic Healing & Angelic Manifesting".She is also the editor and creator of "The Faeries and Angels Magazine" and is the creator and main host of "The Faeries & Angels Radio Network". 
She also creates powerful healing meditations, eCourses and is currently working on two new books, one about Faeries and one about Self-Love! 
Follow her on  Facebook to stay informed and also sign up for her free newsletter.

Saturday, 20 October 2012

Book Review ~ Creating Luck by Marcio Amaral

"Creating Luck :  Transform Your Living Space and Your Life with a Simple Formula" by Marcio Amaral is a "charming little book that explores how we can create good luck and fortune in our lives." 

I was drawn to the reading of this book by it's powerful and inviting front cover and the hope that emanated from it. It took me a while before I fully got into the book (perhaps as I was reading it at bedtime and my mind was already tired), but I learnt a lot from the early chapters particularly about how our luck depends upon our parents and what they believe for us. (Highly worth reading!) 

Learning about Feng Shui and what it is and how it impacts upon our life was interesting, although I got somewhat confused when it came to the discussions for the directions of your home as they seemed to me, slightly different to previous books I'd read. So I am going to try and sit down with the book and other books on the subject and try and draw up the house room plan and see what comes up. 

If you follow this book and this book only to enhance your life and your living space, I believe that you will see dramatic improvements. It is worth noting that this book caters for both people living in the Northern Hemisphere, and the Southern Hemisphere, which is nice as it doesn't leave anyone out. 

Reading the individual chapters about how to transform those areas in our lives was highly interesting and the practicality of it all is simple. There is no need to go out and purchase "blessed" items or items specifically for Feng Shui enhancement. You simply use what you have and make the best of your life with it. This I like very much. 

At the end of the Feng Shui area chapters, there is an exercise that will help you invite, release, encourage or cleanse your life and home of negativity and inviting the good stuff in. 

This book is a superb read, with lots of helpful ideas, information, hints & tips, along with a good grounding foundation of what Feng Shui is, What it can do for you, and how you can implement it into your life. I would recommend this book to anyone who is an avid fan of De-Cluttering, and who likes things to have place in their life and home, because I felt highly motivated to de-clutter my life and home after reading this book even though I had de-cluttered not long ago. 

(RRP £10.99) 

Marcio Amaral is an accredited Chue Style Feng Shui consultant who has been doing this for 18 years. he is also a spiritual healer and medium, with years of experience of helping clients transform their lives. 

Thursday, 18 October 2012

Therapy : Who am I and Where am I going?

Hello my lovely readers,

I want to appologise to you for not posting on here as regularly as I used to, or as regularly as I promised I would. Over the past couple of weeks my life has been turned upside down in a painful and soul-searching way.

Many of you, my faithful readers will know how much I went on a quest to find my one true love, and how I believed that I had indeed found him. It is with some degree of sadness that I have to say that he was not the dream man of mine, he was not the one true love for me either. Yes, that is correct, we have separated and I am again, once more single.

Now just like anyone else, I took this break up rather badly. I couldn't eat anything (resulting in losing 8lbs in weight in only 4 days), I wasn't sleeping - something which is still an on going problem as I am waking at all hours of the night having panic attacks and nightmares about the situation.

Now before you tell me that everything will be OK, I need to explain further. The need to explain comes from within me, because I need to know that I'm not hiding anymore. So please, I ask that you bear with me and allow me to try to explain the best way I can so that I can take a step towards healing who I am.

I have been (blindly) in an abusive relationship. My ex-partner was mentally and emotionally abusing me. Only I didn't see it - until it was almost too late. 

I say almost because slowly he had been getting inside my head, slowly changing my mental thought patterns, and slowly wearing down my self esteem, self confidence and self worth. Almost daily I was told that I was "lazy" because being a teacher and leaving work at 4pm, meant that I was lazy. He also told me he hated teachers, hated children, and continually told me that I "Should stay at home, stop being a teacher so that I can sleep all day and do nothing, because he knew I enjoyed sleeping and was lazy". He'd also pinch me and poke me and take fun out of me when I told him that it hurt me.

As we ended our relationship, after he told me that he would "never marry a girl like me", and that because I was so very upset over the end of our relationship, I was "not right in the head", and "very worrying", and he then proceeded to laugh in my face about how upset I was for over 30 minutes, something clicked inside of me.

I suddenly realised that what he was doing (I wasn't sure what it was that he was actually doing) was not acceptable, it wasn't right, and it certainly wasn't something that you do when you love someone, or indeed something that you do to another person.

I went to see my GP to talk about how I was feeling (depressed) and my lack of sleep and when I told her everything that had happened, she informed me that I was the victim of Emotional and Mental Abuse.

Since that appointment, I have been, and still am on a very difficult and hard pathway as I try to come to terms with whats happened, how it happened, and how to move forward. I'm undergoing counselling which after 1 session this week has helped me realise that I didn't deserve to be treated like this, I didn't do anything wrong. Now I have to pick up the pieces of my life that he tried to break down and I have to try and put them back together again.

It's still very painful doing daily tasks such as getting dressed or choosing my jewellery, putting on my make-up etc because I still hear his voice in my head telling me that I "look stupid", or that I should wear only 1 ring and take my thumb ring off, etc. I hadn't realised that I had allowed him to gain so much power over me. I thought I was still in control, but for at least 3 months he had been playing me like a puppet, and I had no idea.

I've made excuses for him, "he will change", "It's his way of showing me that he cares", "He does really love me, he just doesn't know how to show it", you name it, I've used the excuse. I came so close to throwing away my life for him. I was about to give up my teaching career, I was changing my wardrobe, I'd stopped participating in anything connected with my spirituality, my blog posts had become very program like in that there was no window to my soul in them.

But I realised that before it was too late ...  thankfully.

So Who am I? Where am I going?

My counselor asked me this week "Who are you?" I cried, because I realised that I had no idea who I am. I could tell her who I was before I entered into the relationship, I could tell her that I was strong and happy with who I was then, but I really have no idea who I am.

So she asked me who I wanted to be. This was a little easier to answer and is the area that I am working on now daily, hourly, with the support of my counselor.

I want to be happy, confident, excited about life, committed to my career, embracing my spirituality, and happy with how I look. I want to help other people improve their lives; be that through my life coaching, my writing, perhaps in the future counselling/psychotherapy sessions, I want to empower people. I want to be my usual tarot loving, crystal wearing, happy go lucky witchy woman.

I want to be able to look in the mirror and think 100% that I look good, that I'm beautiful, that I deserve to be happy, that I am worthy of happiness and success. Right now, I can't do that. I find it hard to really see myself in the mirror, I see a shell, an empty shell that is void and numb.

As to where I am going, my counselor and I have agreed that each day I will write a list no matter how small, of all the things that I like about myself. It's really not easy. Today I came up with 5 things, one of them being that I believe myself to be a kind person. I still hear his comments in my head about me, and that's what this exercise will help me with - removing his voice, his thoughts, his programming and putting my own voice, my own thoughts and my programming back in my head.

I read that emotional abuse often leaves a longer lasting effect than physical abuse, and it's only now that I realise that. A bruise fades, scarring can fade or be disguised, bones can be fixed, cuts can be stitched... but the emotional thoughts, feelings, fears, they are so much harder to heal.

I believe I will get to a place of happiness, healing and wholeness. I believe that one day I will no longer hear his voice, I don't hate him, I don't love him. I feel nothing for him. I feel nothing for myself only shame... I never thought this would happen to me, I thought that I would know if someone was trying to hurt me. But I didn't, love made me blind. His clever tactics of lulling me into a false sense of security fooled me.

Fears admitted

As a trainee life coach, I know that FEARs are only False Expectations Appearing Real, but a fear of mine is that you, my readers, my followers, and people who believe in me and my teachings will think less of me now. I have that fear that this situation has made me lose the respect people had for me, that in some way I shouldn't be trying to help others when "look at the state of my life".

But there is a tiny glimmer of a warrior woman inside of me that is trying to scream but is only managing a whisper right now, she's saying that it's because of what I've gone through, and what i'm going through now that puts me in a good place to help others because I've been there, I've experienced this terrible form of abuse, of having a low self esteem, low confidence, because I can truly relate to how many people have felt, or are feeling right now.

Part of me never wanted to write this blog, in fact I wanted to delete it and pretend that everythings OK, but for every other woman out there, every other fellow spiritual sister of mine who has or is going through a situation similar to mine, I felt I owed you, to speak out and show you that in truth;

there is no shame in what we've experienced. Yes people will put labels on us, "stupid", "Silly", "blind", "Victim".

But I ask you to stand with me, clasp my hand for sisterly strength and say "NO. I AM A SURVIVOR".

Thank you xxx

Please use this link to get help and advice, please. 

Wednesday, 3 October 2012

78 Days of Tarot

Hello everyone, 

I've decided to take up a new challenge - the "78 Days of Tarot" challenge from the "Dusken Path

I am excited about this project purely because I love, love, LOVE tarot cards and although I wanted to begin this from October 1st, I didn't discover it until October 2nd, AND (yes there are more excuses reasons) it's my 24th Birthday on Friday (yes the 5th!!) and I have been told that I will be getting a new fan-dabby-doobly tarot deck!! So I thought that as I begin to work with a new deck, I could post about those cards from Saturday 6th. 

Each card will be blogged about for theoretically 78 days (although I may be posting 7 cards in one go once a week - especially when we reach the Minor Arcane). I will include a picture of each card, and will include my interpretation of the card and look at the symbology used in the artwork.

I do hope that you will join me by reading and commenting on the blog posts and if you're taking part too - let me know so I can read all about your 78 Days of Tarot! 

Bright Blessings, 

Tuesday, 2 October 2012

Happy October

Ok, so it's a day late but still, "Happy October!" 

I realised yesterday just how long it has been since I wrote on this blog about anything connected with my Witchiness. 

Many of you may remember just how my blog journey began, this blog was in fact called ~ "The Witch Inside" before recently changing it to "The Faerie Whisperer". It was a special lady who became my sister, (Pixie Allen) who encouraged me to blog way back in 2009 (I think that was the year I began blogging) and who also encouraged me to follow my Witchy pathway. I wasn't always loud and proud! Recently I've been reminded that I shouldn't hide who I am and what I believe in to conform to others ideas of me. 

I do miss my Witchy Writings, I actually miss the interaction I had with a lot of my readers who were themselves walking a similar pathway. 

So, as you can see the famous Witchy Background and layout for the blog has returned, and I will try to post more Witchy themed blogs for you all to read and hopefully enjoy. 


On Friday it's my 24th Birthday and as a special present to myself I've ordered myself a copy of Silja's Green Wiccan Book of Shadows. 

I hadn't intended on reviewing this book on my blog but after mentioning it on a post on my Facebook wall, I had a few emails from my friends asking me if I would be reviewing it - alas, I have decided that I will post a review of the book, so you might want to keep an eye out for that. 

Thank you for stopping by, and I hope we can spend more time together soon! 

Bright Blessings,